There is something so easy about saying that you will forgive someone, isn't there. I am really struggling with this right now for several reasons.
First, I seem to be the only one that is hurting over this particular issue and the other person seems to be clueless of the harm done. Second, since there has been no acknowlegement of the wrong doing - it will just keep happening. I have made the point as clear as possible but it keeps happening over and over.
Kaleb said "Just cut the friendship because friends don't take advantage like that". I want to just do that but I can't seem to figure out how to just cut it out and act as if it is not going on.
So,here are a few quotes that I found:
Forgiving is love's toughest work, and love's biggest risk. If you twist it into something it was never meant to be, it can make you a doormat or an insufferable manipulator. Forgiving seems almost unnatural. Our sense of fairness tells us people should pay for the wrong they do. But forgiving is love's power to break nature's rule. ~Lewis B.
It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. ~William Blake, Jerusalem Smedes
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. ~Paul Boese
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. ~Mahatma Gandhi
What does God's word say about forgiveness though. Does HE tell me to be a doormat for the situation?
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13).
“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matthew 6:14).
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times’” (Matthew 18:21-22 ).
Matthew gave me my answer. I guess the easist thing to go is just figure out when we get to 78 times and then that is it - I am done. HA Not seriously, I guess it is just a comfort to know that either God will change it or I can change it when enough time has passed. Sadly, if I was not so upset about it, then it would not matter and I would not be searching.
Guess we will see if I can keep it up or not....
